Sensuality can be defined as the enjoyment, expression, or pursuit of physical, especially sexual, pleasure; the condition of being pleasing or fulfilling to the senses. Although people often confound the term with sexuality and believe those two are intertwined, there is a line, perhaps a thin one though, that separates being sensual from feeling sexual desire. While sensuality can go hand in hand with sexuality and can improve the intimacy of your sex life, the former doesn’t necessarily have to do anything with sex, as there are numerous ways to be sensual without the sexual connotation.
Sensuality is more about being comfortable in your own skin, feeling confident, connecting with your inner self, being present and taking the time to indulge in all your physical senses. Every woman should explore her sensuality, because a sensual woman is a powerful one.
Here are 5 ways to become a sensual woman:
Sensuality is directly linked to our physical bodies and senses. Have you ever thought about how much your body loves you? It’s always trying to keep you alive. It’s making sure you’re breathing while you sleep, stopping cuts from bleeding, fixing broken bones and tissues, fighting off illnesses… Your body loves you so much, it’s about time you start loving it back.
Loving your body and finding ways to feel good in your skin will unlock your levels of self-confidence, give you courage to step out of your comfort zone and help you break some barriers that may exist regarding feeling sexy.
Make it a task for yourself to learn to accept and love all parts of your body – your body doesn’t need to look perfect for you to feel good about yourself! There’s nothing you need to change about it other than your opinion. Try this eye-opening and uplifting exercise: stand in front of a mirror and put your attention on the parts of your body that you like and are proud of. Even better if you say that out loud or write that down. This may seem like a simple exercise, but the effect will astonish you and you will be able to congratulate yourself on taking action to become a better, empowered and more sensual you.
Express your love for your body by practicing self-care rituals regularly. It can be as simple as pampering yourself with skincare and hair products, having a bubble bath or treating yourself to a massage or a spa day, and go as far as embracing your body hair, dancing naked in your room, going to a concert alone or going to therapy. Whatever you pick, it’s essential that you create this ritual for yourself only and that you OWN what you do.
Don’t forget about your physical health and regular doctor check-ups, as well as your mental health and go to a therapist if you feel the need to. Exercise and proper nutrition also take part in keeping you healthy and boost your self-confidence. It doesn’t matter if it’s going to the gym, working out at home, dancing or jogging, any such physical activity will make you stronger, glowier and more self-assured. Having a piece of mind and nurturing the relationship with yourself will help you achieve your goals of becoming your most sensual self.
Who doesn’t want to feel like Beyoncé or J.Lo on a stage? There’s something empowering in dancing, in letting all your worries go away and allowing your body to feel any new sensation or emotion that arises. Dance can help you meet your feminine self through movement, become more elegant and confident, and overcome your insecurities.
You can put on some smooth, sensual music and express yourself freely in the comfort of your home. Or, you can choose between numerous dance styles and join a class. A dance that has stolen the global spotlight and is one of the currently most popular styles is bachata, especially sensual bachata. Another sensual dance is the african tango or kizomba, while salsa is more dynamic but also requires hip movement. These are all partner dances, and while there’s nothing more special than closing your eyes while dancing with your SO to sensual music, you can take on this journey solo and try out heels dance or belly dancing.
But beware, you may make a decision that will change your life for the better forever.
Take time during the day to deliberately slow down and tune into your five senses. Pay attention to the things you see, hear, smell, taste and touch. Slow down and enjoy the small moments like putting on your favorite perfume, eating your absolute favorite dishes, walking down the street or a park, listening to the birds singing or the waves hitting the shore… Giving yourself permission to notice things more fully and deeply will help you to allow yourself to take more pleasure in your experiences and ultimately lead you to unlock your sensuality.
Be more in the present moment by practicing breathing or meditation for a few minutes each day. Breathing might seem a little obvious, but knowing how to breathe properly will help you to be more mindful and aware, feel more embodied, lose the FOMO, and you will notice you’re getting more out of each moment.
Meditation might be just what you need right now in the midst of the global pandemic. Put on some meditation music; it can be classical music, nature sounds or a guided meditation, and simply start with relaxing all of your muscles. Not only will it instantly help you to sleep more calmly, but it will also make you more aware of your body, bring your attention to all the things you’re grateful for, teach you to enjoy every moment, help you have better control of your emotions and create the life you want.
To sum up, learning to love yourself, having a self-care ritual, dancing, indulging in pleasure and staying present are some of the guaranteed and mind-blowing ways to become your most sensual self. Take the reins of your sensuality, consciously explore what feels good and give your body a voice. There’s a reason why you’re capable of experiencing pleasure – take advantage of it!